Does your child have a fixed or growth mindset? Need explanation–what is a fixed mindset? What is a growth mindset?
To encourage a growth mindset–whether your child succeeds or fails on a task or project–helps your child think about the strategies they used and evaluate their effectiveness, as well as the effort they put in.
For a Success
Next time your child succeeds at something, such as winning a soccer game or getting a good grade, instead of simply praising, also ask a few questions:
- Why do you think you succeeded?
- What is one thing you did that worked really well?
- What is one thing you did that you would do differently next time?
- What do you think would have happened if you didn’t try as hard?
For a Failure
Next time your child has a setback or failure, instead of just showing sympathy and offering encouragement, also ask a few questions:
- What specific thing did you do that didn’t work?
- Is there anything you did that worked well, even though you didn’t get the outcome you wanted?
- What specific thing can you do next time to help you succeed? What would be the pluses and minuses of that approach?
- What do you think will happen next time if you practice more/study more/work harder?
How you critique and praise your child will push them toward either a growth or fixed mindset.
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